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My up-py friend

Wednesday, October 6th, 2010

I don’t know what it is about long, white soft fur and big golden eyes.
My 12-year-old white and gold cat who had been fighting cancer for three months decided to stop fighting Monday morning. He died in an unassuming, quiet and dignified way. The way he lived. He died with my husband, Andy, sitting beside him, his large hand mingled with the white fur.
Greenfield was my “up-py” friend.
He was six months old the first time I saw him in a cage with a raggedly stuffed toy near his paws.
I didn’t want to look at him when I went to the animal shelter. I couldn’t help myself.

It was the first anniversary of my father’s death, and a few days past the two-month anniversary of my mother’s death. I decided it was a good day to save a life.

I wanted a small gray and peach female to match my Flanagan. Flanagan is a gray and peach short-hair male my sister, Janet, rescued from certain death when he was a few weeks old. I wanted a kitten that day —  one that would fit in my hand like Flanagan had.

It was a few days before Christmas when my sister and I entered the animal shelter. There were only two cats there. There was a small gray and peach female kitten and a big fluffy white male cat. I went straight for the kitten. My sister stopped in front of the cage with the big fluffy white cat. She asked the staff to take him out so she could hold him.

I would have nothing to do with it. I stayed in front of the kitten’s cage and made chirping noises.
“Come on, Judy, just hold him,” she said.
“No,” I said, with my back to her and her big, fluffy bundle she was holding in her arms.
Janet can be very persuasive.
I slowly turned around.
He was staring at me with his golden eyes. He bend backwards in her arms and reached out his paws to me.
I walked over to them slowly and held out my arms. He crawled into them and he fit perfectly on my shoulder with his paws in my hair.
I sighed.
“He picked me,” I told the woman watching us.
““His name is Greenfield, the same as our Dad’s middle name,” I said.
She got quiet. “I have to tell you he has a heart condition,” she said.
I smiled. An absolutely wonderful person in my life had a heart condition. A kind and sweet soul.
“Now, I really want him,” I said.
Greenfield outgrew his heart murmur, but he gave me a heart condition.
Greenfield and I have had adventures over the years.

He rode in my steering wheel and on my shoulders over a summer of working and learning in Montana. He went to college with me and read my books through his stomach. He chased butterflies on our walks. He slept on my pillow, his body curled around my head many a night. He became a firm friend with Flanagan. He stayed a special friend with my sister. He was very vocal when I opened a tin of cat food. He drank water by dipping his paw in the water and them licking it.

He welcomed my soon-to-be husband with open paws the first time I brought Andy home to meet my furry friends. From that point on I had to share his affections.

Greenfield waited by the door when I came home from work to be petted before I could even put down my purse.
But my absolute favorite moment and somehow I believe it was his too was when he would stretch and place his paws on my hip almost every day — at least once — when he wanted “up-py” so he could settled on my shoulder and put his paws in my hair.

Very little tea

Friday, April 16th, 2010

Being a member of the Tea Party has a nice ring to it — all about the courage to protest things that don’t seem to be working; taking on the “gangster government.” It smells of the little guy taking on the big guy.

Tea Party members say a lot, label a lot, chant a lot. What they don’t do is offer an alternative. Well, Okay, they call for downsizing the government. And reducing  government spending. Who would not be for that. Sounds good, doesn’t it. What I don’t hear is how they are going to do that. Well, maybe by “Re-elect no one” or “Dump all Democrats.” Good call, get rid of the wisdom that comes with service; get rid of a group of people who might have different ideas than you do and different possible solutions.

I sat at a township meeting with one person from the community this week. She had a particular matter on the agenda she wanted to address. I was there as a reporter representing the community as a whole. There was a gentleman representing a company that had put in a bid to do road work. We all looked lost among the rows of empty chairs.  Meanwhile the supervisors made decisions of where to spend money and on what project. Where are the Tea Party members. Before you can change something, first you need to know about the thing you want to change. I hope someday to hear more substance and less chanting.

Judy D.J. Ellich
judye@dailyamerican.com

Kelly and her day

Wednesday, March 31st, 2010

March 31 is Kelly Jo Marlene Good’s birthday. In fact, the whole month of March is my niece’s day. She died seven years ago but not before long changing how I look at March. It truly is a month of change and hope. These are topics we cover everyday as a community newspaper. For me, March and its messages have always been more personal. I hunger for Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups and Pepsi “Nepsi” even more than normal this month because they were Kelly Jo’s favorites. I think a lot about wrestling books and Power Rangers and music — Rock of course — and laughter and a family complete. This day is not as sad as it once was, because now on this day I live more within my respect for my lovely niece and feel strength and encouragement in the small spring-like things like kites and butterflies because she taught me the value of everyday miracles. I know she is happy and sharing her smiles with others that have a piece of my heart with them in heaven. Happy happy to you, Kelly Jo.

Judy D.J. Ellich

Your ideas and responses are welcome at judye@dailyamerican.com

Good Waters

Monday, March 15th, 2010

As my husband and I swept toward the drain the couple of inches of water that seeped into our basement on Saturday, I thought of my parents. The last time I battled cold water in a basement was in 2005 — about this time of year. Only that time, the sopping waters destroyed most of my memorabilia of my parents tucked away into boxes in the path of the foot or better of water. I use to open those boxes from time to time when I was feeling lonely for them. I would pull out a wallet and there was my Dad, in his long johns, telling his goofy rabbit joke for the 50th time, literally, and laughing so loud that I could not help myself — I had to laugh, too. I would pull out a necklace and there was my mother, standing in my doorway with car keys jingling in her hand and my sister behind her with a big smile on her face. For the first time in years, my mother felt well enough that day to take us on a drive through the countryside — and boy was that ride. Then I realize something after the water receded by Sunday and nothing was really harmed, that sometimes the worst of times are the best of times, for they can bring memories that help you not feel so alone.

Judy D.J. Ellich

Your ideas and responses are welcome at judye@dailyamerican.com

A loss

Friday, February 19th, 2010

I love horses. When I run my hand down the warm, strong and silky neck of a horse, I feel the power. When my hands get lost in a thick, coarse mane, I feel safe. When I see a rider and horse moving as one, I feel alive.

Steeplechasing is one of those sports that reinforces why I love horses, especially horses in motion:  The tremendous speed as the horse’s nostrils flare and its hooves eat up the ground between jumps that often look like tall, overgrown hedges; the rider’s control of the speed and collection of the mount; the trust given the horse by its rider and the trust give the rider by the horse because neither can see what is waiting on the other side of that jump. Then the moment comes, they round over the jump and for a mini-second they are one — defying gravity.

I love books. I like the smell and the feel of them, the different worlds they bring — worlds I have to participate in to find closure.

Dick Francis brought the world of steeplechasing and books together for decades. The ex-jockey and writer of thrillers died on Valentine’s Day. His passing is a personal loss to his family and friends. His passing is a personal loss to us readers, because on another snowy, cold day we can no longer curl up with a new vision of Francis’ world.

Judy D.J. Ellich

Any thoughts, you also can write me at judye@dailyamerican.com.

A moment with Murtha

Monday, February 8th, 2010

It was a balmy summer day in 2008.  U.S. Rep. John P. Murtha was in Somerset County to attend yet another ceremony where he announced funding he had helped come this way for yet another project. I had met the Congressman before on a couple of occasions, but this was the first time I got a glimpse of the man behind the suit. We stood side-by-side for awhile after the announcements and the congratulations. It was his 16-year-old granddaughter, Anne, he wanted to talk about. She was learning to drive. She was doing very well, he said. She was a good girl, he said. With a smile and a twinkle in his eyes, he added he didn’t believe he was in peril, because she soon would be driving him back to his Johnstown office. No matter what his politics, the man had kind eyes. And that day, at that moment, all he was seeing was his granddaughter. I liked the man. I wish I would have known him better. We always think there is time. Time fools us.

Judy D.J. Ellich

Any thoughts, you also can write me at judye@dailyamerican.com.

Elusive neutrality

Tuesday, February 2nd, 2010

Neutrality is a figment of our imagination.
As soon as we opened our mouths as babies and are able to articulate with a sound or an animated expression that life isn’t fair unless we get what we want, neutrality goes out the door.
As reporters we are taught and told over and over by the powers that be that we must be neutral in our reporting. By neutral, they say, we mean fair — tell both sides to every issue, even if you believe there is only one.
I cover the courts. More often than not the stress and fear and concern and loss is palpable from the victims and their families and from the defendants and their families.
One day while covering a hearing I realized that the victim’s family was staring at me. I learned later that they thought I was siding with the defendant because I kept sitting smack in them middle of the defendant’s family at the various hearings that deal with the case. It just so happens that where I was sitting is the best place to see and hear those proceedings in that particular courtroom.
I thought about what they said.
At the next hearing, I made a point to sit on the other side with the victim’s family.
My stories stayed the same, telling both sides of the issue, but the perception of that family in the courtroom was that I was neutral. Sometimes it is where you sit or stand that makes a difference.

Judy D.J. Ellich
For anyone who wants to contact me by e-mail — try judye@dailyamerican.com

Sisters

Tuesday, January 26th, 2010

The music blared and the dancers laughed and gyrated on the dance floor in front of the D.J. at a wedding reception my family attended recently. In the midst of the crowd two little girls stood hand-in-hand. The one stood three or four inches taller than the other. Both had shoulder-length hair tied back with colorful bows to match their dresses. The dresses flared out from their knobby knees and they looked like they could belong in a number of eras.

I couldn’t help but watch them as they stood there — two sisters — getting strength from each other. Laughing. Sometimes dancing or skipping. All the time holding hands. Best friends. Earlier they had heaped their plates with food, scooping a little of this and a little of that on each other’s plates.

My sister and I did that. Our mom grew up in a musical family of 11 kids, most who played an instrument or sang. My sister and I held hands and danced among the adults at more families’ “hootenannies” than I can count. But now as adults we don’t hold each other hands when we walk down the street or go to weddings. I miss those spontaneous and light-hearted times that have been replaced with a good giggle or snort as we sit around a kitchen table. It is not quite the same. Why do we feel self-conscious showing affection as adults? How silly is that.

Judy D.J. Ellich

For anyone who wants to contact me by e-mail — try judye@dailyamerican.com